Saturday, August 6, 2011

A blog with substance

One of my favourite bloggers, Aisha just passed on this wonderful award. 

Thanks so much Aisha! Aisha is a fellow desi and I love to read her posts because I feel she speaks my language. And her comments are always insightful. 

The rules are simple:
Name 7 random things about yourself and nominate 7 bloggers.

Here are some random facts about me:
  • ·         I never ate eggs on the day of my exams. You know egg=circle= zero? Stupid, I know.
  • ·         Till I stated working in 2003, I had a haircut every 2-3 months and my hairstylist was my brother!
  • ·         I am still friends with all but one of my exes. The one I am not friends with was the one I was engaged to for 4 years and who cheated on me. His loss really, don’t you think?
  • ·         I was a raving hypochondriac as a teenager! Not so much now thankfully.
  • ·         I hate shopping. And bargaining. I just go and pick up the first thing I see.
  • ·         I have no cousins. My dad was an only child. So is my mom. My parents made up for the lack of relatives by having 5 kids! My 3 sisters and brother are all the family I have.
  • The first time I smoked was when I was a 15 year old. I stole some of my sister’s boy friends ciggis and took them to school – an all girls school that too and smoked in the loo with my kick ass friends.
·         And now to pass on this award to seven of my favourite bloggers.

StElsewhere – She is just an amazing blogger and an even more amazing human. It helps that she is a fellow Indian.
Esperanza and JJiraffe – I love the way these woman write. Most of time I get so involved with what they have written that I forget to comment!
Deborah– A recent bloggy friend who is just so human. I totally feel at home at her blog. She is a great support too.
Athena – My favourite Aussie! I simply adore this lady and her blogs are just out of this world.
ThirtiesGirl – Brave, brave!
The Smart One – What can I say about her that hasn’t been said before?

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Being a Stay at home mom...

I never ever thought I would be a SAHM! That was just not me. When I got my BFP, I left my job because I was forced. The Doctor wanted me not to travel during the first 12 weeks. It was tough for I was the primary earner of the family at that point of time. But my baby came first. There was no way in hell I was taking any chance with my pregnancy. I worked from on and off, thinking I would stat working when D was 6 months old. The first 6 months, I had no time to even understand what was happening. I felt so rushed and out of sorts. When D turned 6 months old, I started looking out for a job but reality hit hard. I could find no job that did justice to my education and experience.

For some one like me, who loves the outdoors, who simply loves to talk with people, being a SAHM is tough. Don't get me wrong. I do cherish each moment I spend with Danny. But I KNOW that I would have been a better mother if I spent a few hours outside, on my own each day. Last month, I finally got that perfect job offer.

But I am still a SAHM. There is nobody I can leave Danny with while I work. I couldn't find a nanny who was reliable and cost effective. The daycare scene here in India is not really that good. All the good day cares are just too far. My MIL cannot come and look after D as she is staying and looking after my SIL's kids (aged 10 & 5) while my SIL and her husband work in Singapore.

MIL did suggest that I drop D at her place each morning and pick him up in the evenings. But that would have added almost 3 hours of travel time to the normal travel time of 2 hours. Travelling 5 hours each day? Doesn't sound too god does it?

So here I am, working from home. Trying to tell myself how lucky I am that I get to stay at home. But honestly? I wish it was otherwise. I am not very happy with the way I parent at the moment. I hate cooking, I hate doing household chores (other than cleaning). I am just not a domestic person. Some of you may judge me. Does the fact that I want to work make me a bad mom?