tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post7703861551181915586..comments2023-10-15T17:33:53.898+05:30Comments on As Good As It Gets....: Are you happily married?Chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-46969910126288853832011-07-07T16:24:07.517+05:302011-07-07T16:24:07.517+05:30C, I have a very strong feeling you are experienci...C, I have a very strong feeling you are experiencing depression.<br /><br />All marriages have kinks, and I think you had a good one with M, but some mojo is gone.<br /><br />I think you should work towards improving your physical intimacy with him, and you should work on your state of emotions.<br /><br />Please take care!St Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074672268757885766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-34709836975055497842011-06-29T04:27:00.949+05:302011-06-29T04:27:00.949+05:30I don't know if all marriages are this way - m...I don't know if all marriages are this way - mine sure can be though. I have moments of being incredibly unhappy, despite having a husband that everyone tells me I'm "lucky to have." I love him, he loves me beyond measure, but there's just something missing. <br />I think we all love differently, and we all have different needs we're trying to meet via our significant others. I agree with the PP's about therapy; it's a great way to figure out those needs. <br />((hugs))Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507309605382575798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-21760161379250700862011-06-28T09:26:10.239+05:302011-06-28T09:26:10.239+05:30No, its not how all marriages are. But if it were,...No, its not how all marriages are. But if it were, would that make you feel any better? Of course not. If your marriage is in a rough spot now, it doesn't matter of everyone else's is too.<br />Certainly any marriage that's had infertility thrust upon it has got to be strained to some degree...that's normal. Maybe you should talk to a counselor to help you sort things out?<br />Tracey ICLW #118Traceyhttp://www.thefertilitydaily.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-12021680097319511392011-06-27T23:12:25.297+05:302011-06-27T23:12:25.297+05:30if you look at it from the perspective that all re...if you look at it from the perspective that all relationships teach us more about ourselves than they do about the other person, i really really think you need to make you a priority. i've sat and waited for Flynn to start talking to me. you'll wait forever. BUT if you have something to say that's really exciting, then a conversation, a moment of shared goodness can happen. <br />Men, even the good ones, are still men. They think in terms of solutions, fixes and to do lists, not bonding, social webbing and sharing. a lot of it is how they're wired and why finding the girls you can be that with IS SERIOUSLY important. They're like medicine you lack and you'd better find it or you're going to try to extract "it"/happy from M and that's not something he can give you unless he's extraordinary.<br />go look for those girls like your head is on fire and they've got the water.Tracyhttp://www.cookedheads.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-28313826389727702722011-06-27T19:05:42.929+05:302011-06-27T19:05:42.929+05:30Hi from ICLW. I agree with the PPs about counselin...Hi from ICLW. I agree with the PPs about counseling for yourself. I've done it many times for many different reasons, and it can be a big help. Good luck and I hope you can find some peace. <br /><br />ICLW #128Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628425225127969675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-27715412987141268172011-06-27T16:44:20.396+05:302011-06-27T16:44:20.396+05:30@Esperanza YES!!! that's the biggest problem. ...@<a href="#c8520110675231482335" rel="nofollow">Esperanza</a> YES!!! that's the biggest problem. I do I try and make things better when M thinks everything is fine? Thanks for the suggestions. Will give them a try...Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-61494315367783214222011-06-27T16:43:18.042+05:302011-06-27T16:43:18.042+05:30@Kristin I think that is what I should be doing no...@<a href="#c3805663637636546742" rel="nofollow">Kristin</a> I think that is what I should be doing now. Depression is something I am dealing with...hopefully i can work my way out of this,,,Thanks for your kind words...Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-951965101625152172011-06-27T16:42:21.679+05:302011-06-27T16:42:21.679+05:30@Jjiraffe I think that is a big part of why I feel...@<a href="#c6081555103278536262" rel="nofollow">Jjiraffe</a> I think that is a big part of why I feel the way I feel. My self worth has just dipped so much. I had always measured my worth by my job, my career, the money I made...now its all gone..Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-51663190282391500422011-06-27T16:41:07.115+05:302011-06-27T16:41:07.115+05:30@Deborah Thats what I wonder Deborah! I don't ...@<a href="#c7960901642409831291" rel="nofollow">Deborah</a> Thats what I wonder Deborah! I don't know...Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-85201106752314823352011-06-27T11:24:55.370+05:302011-06-27T11:24:55.370+05:30I'm sorry you're feeling in a bad place ri...I'm sorry you're feeling in a bad place right now, relationship wise. Mi.Vida and I have found the transition to parenthood really difficult for our marriage but the difference is we both recognize the problems, not just one of us. I would definitely consider counseling for yourself. Having an unbiased third party help you through all of this would be very helpful. And it might help you understand why you feel the way you do and what you need from your relationship. And maybe having someone support you in figuring that out would help you to bring it to your husband.<br /><br />We also read the book And Baby Makes Three and found that very helpful, but I don't know if it would work when one person doesn't think anything is wrong. That is really hard to work around.<br /><br />I wish I had more/better advice. I hope things start to get better between you and M.Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-38056636376365467422011-06-27T10:05:00.613+05:302011-06-27T10:05:00.613+05:30Have you thought about talking to a counselor your...Have you thought about talking to a counselor yourself? It sounds like you might be experiencing a bit of depression and either counseling or short term meds might help. Either way, I hope and pray you find your way back to happiness.<br /><br />ICLW #10Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-60815551032785362622011-06-27T09:51:20.691+05:302011-06-27T09:51:20.691+05:30Yeah. I read Mel's post and honestly? I was je...Yeah. I read Mel's post and honestly? I was jealous. Unlike a lot of other bloggers, I feel like I'M the one letting Darcy down. That being a SAHM makes me less attractive in every way. He's a super achiever, makes good money. When we first met, I was the super achiever. Add in the fact that I'm infertile and I feel like a SUPER loser :(Jjiraffehttp://jjiraffe.Wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-79609016424098312912011-06-27T06:05:46.771+05:302011-06-27T06:05:46.771+05:30I don't know if *all* marriages are like that,...I don't know if *all* marriages are like that, but I can certainly say that some of them are. Watching TV, not talking, sounds like us. But just like with you, when I'm not around K, I feel worse. And like with you, there are enough good times where I really enjoy his company, to make it worthwhile. So I don't know. How much good vs. how much bad makes something a "good" marriage?Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07335915683875653154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-39937504045856425542011-06-26T20:51:28.966+05:302011-06-26T20:51:28.966+05:30@marriage20 Thanks so much for dropping by...Couns...@<a href="#c448949590757463898" rel="nofollow">marriage20</a> Thanks so much for dropping by...Counseling is a no go. As I said M does not think anything is wrong..even if he did, he simply does not believe in counseling...Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395529198459662630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997739062967668610.post-4489495907574638982011-06-26T20:40:44.978+05:302011-06-26T20:40:44.978+05:30I'm sorry you're feeling stuck in a bad pl...I'm sorry you're feeling stuck in a bad place with your marriage. It sounds like there are a few factors contributing to your sense of unease, but it also sounds like you have a solid foundation of mutual love and respect.<br /><br />Since you both value each other and your family so much, have you considered counseling? Sometimes it can really help to get an objective point of view and some practical tips on how to improve things.<br /><br />However you decide to move forward, I hope you start feeling more like yourself soon! Wishing you all the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com